When Relationships Drift

Last week, I was sitting in my office working on my sermon and something happened.  Usually if I am working, I have music going.  It helps me focus for some reason.  Dead silence allows my mind to wander in a hundred different directions.  That, or I find myself nodding off to sleep even if I am not really tired at the moment.

So, back to the story.  I have music going and a song comes on that I know by heart.  It’s one that I have heard and sung countless times.  But it is also one that every once in a while, I remember exactly where I was the first time I heard the song and what I was doing.  This particular time, it made me flash back to the first time, and remember a friend that because of distance in miles and just differences in life have caused us to drift apart. 

And this is a close friend.  He was the best man in my wedding for crying out loud, and I could not tell you the last time I even spoke to him, or even texted him.  He played the song in question the first time I ever heard it, and it was that memory that came flooding back when I came through my speakers last week.  I stopped what I was doing and immediately texted my friend 1,400 miles away, telling him that I head the song, it made me think of him and the first time he introduced to it at a week of church camp, and that I missed him. 

It is funny (in a sad way) to me how we let close friends slip away sometimes.  Yes, this particular friend lives back in Tennessee, so we are separated by 1,400 miles and two time zones.  But with today’s technologies of cell phones, social media apps, and e-mail, the drifting of friendships really boils down to a lack of commitment on one or both parties. 

In other words, we let life get in the way, and someone we were once really close to, we realize that we have not spoken to them in years.  My fear (and realization) is that we do this with God as well.  Life gets in the way, we get busy, and before we know it, it has been days, weeks, months, or maybe even years since we have spoken with Him.  We have drifted in our relationship with Him, and that closeness we once had when we first started the relationship has slipped away.

And it is all on us.  We are the ones that have the lack of commitment because we let life get in the way.  My guess is we never even meant to, but it just happened.  But here is the great thing.  We have even better tools than technology to rekindle this relationship.  We do not need a cell phone, social media apps, or e-mail.  We have prayer, and we have God’s word at our fingertips in the form of a Bible.  He is there, waiting for us to communicate with Him again, but we have to be willing to reach out to Him.  Pray.  Read your Bible.  Recommit to working on a relationship with Him, the most important relationship you could ever have.

Thoughts From a Crosseyed Jesus Freak

2 thoughts on “When Relationships Drift

  1. I agree we do let life take away relationships at times. But when a friendship is broken apart by words and unchristian like actions it truly hurts especially when they say hurtful things about your spouse or family,how can we get beyond that except through Christ alone who forgives and strengthens me during all trials, Jesus take the wheel of my life.

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